![]() In mediation I was accused of harrassment because of this. I have not wanted to cause any upset or bad feeling for my daughters sake (also my ex has a son from a previous relationship and she has an injunction out against his father who hasn’t seen his son in nearly 10 years) so I messaged every single day until we finally saw a mediator nearly 3 weeks later, without a single reply to a daily message to ask just how my daughter is. Visitation was witheld and there was nothing I could do because it cannot be classified as kidnapping if the child is with some one who has parental responsibility. ![]() The real reason? Because I didn’t marry her at the exact time she wanted me to. Yet I have very little communication with my ex, not because I haven’t tried or continuing to try but because she is desperately trying to erase me from our daughters life who is not old enough to make decisions for herself. The right to visitation, access to their child. I live in the UK where the laws had changed (thank goodness) that if an unmarried single father’s (which I am one out of thousands) name is on the child’s birth certificate then the father has “parental responsibility”. In a world where generally the mother has more “rights” over the father depending of course on state, county, province or whatever and society gives women this maternal nurturing angle over men, why is it assumed that narcissists are generally men? What really bothers me about this article is whilst there are a lot of great points made, why is the opening paragraph and even opening words refer to the male species when the word narcissism is used? I would not allow this abuse to hurt them the way it did me my entire life. I did not want this to be the case for my children. I did not see my own mother for the narcissist she is until I was almost forty and having completely severed all ties with the non-narcissistic parent for years if not most of my life. They will grow up one day and see the narcissist parent for what he is, and you will come out the winner. Take comfort in the fact that children are strong, resilient, and smart. Sit quietly on the sidelines while the narcissist digs his own parental grave – and he will dig it because he just won’t be able to help himself. In fact, say nothing and simply observe, allowing the narcissistic co-parent to talk trash about mommy (or daddy) all day long if he or she wants to. At some point, the narcissist may even threaten you either with a call to child protective services or by saying that he simply won’t be bringing them back.Īnd this is how far my husband was willing to play our children against me throughout our marriage, to the max during our long drawn out divorce and throughout the child custody battle, one in which he was not willing to lose.ĭo not worry about and/or feed into the enormous amount of trash-talking going on behind your back. The narcissist will use every excuse in the book pertaining to the children to intrude upon your new life. ![]() As they know the children mean the most to you, not to them, unfortunately. ![]() Since the narcissist has no conscience, dragging the children into the dirt is nothing and for them the easiest way to hurt you. Because the narcissist co-parent is not a normal human, he or she is going to use the children as a tactic and weapon of choice to cut you to the very bone.
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